SOLOGAMY: The Saddest Trend You’ve Ever Heard Of

first_imgDaily Wire 15 May 2017Family First Comment: We warned that once something is redefined once, there will be no stopping further redefinitions. Unfortunately…. we were right., people are now marrying themselves. Well, more specifically, sad, bitter feminists with a millennial-like flare for narcissism are marrying themselves after sticking it to The Patriarchy by choosing to put their careers ahead of their personal lives.In the new, sad trend called “sologamy,” women are committing themselves to themselves with their own wedding ceremony. These women, such as self-styled “sologamist” Erika Anderson, throw on a white gown, invite their close friends and family and marry themselves in a legally nonbinding way.“I would describe it as women saying yes to themselves,” Anderson, 37, told WUSA9. “It means that we are enough, even if we are not partnered with someone else.“You’re worth it!” added the feminist.Anderson tied the knot to herself in New York City and advocates for the self-marriage lifestyle.“Anderson said she grew tired of people asking why she was still single. So, in front of family and friends she married herself,” notes WUSA9.The trend has grown within the United States and has even gone international.READ MORE: read more

Lady Bulldogs Middle School Teams Win Over Lady Wildcats

first_imgThe Batesville 7th Grade Volleyball team won against Franklin County in three games: 25-24, 23-25, and 15-10. The girls fought very hard for this win. Elena Kuisel was the leading server with 2 aces and 10 good serves. Following was Kaylie Raver with 8 good serves, Margaret Wilson with 4 aces and 5 good serves, Annie Shane had one ace and 5 good serves, Sydney Slavin had two aces, and Kaylin Hinners had 5 good serves. Sara Lamping and Taylor Blanton added 1 good hit each. Laura Schwegman and Renee’ Lecher added good passes to help the team in their win! Their record is 2-3. Courtesy of Bulldogs Coach Megan Werner.The BMS 8th Grade Volleyball team came back from a game 1 loss to Franklin County to win 19-25, 25-21, 15-14.   In game 2 & 3 they were more aggressive at the net. Cayman Werner led all hitters with 9 kills.  Jadyn Harrington, Samantha Kessens, and Kaitlyn Sarringhaus each had 3 kills. Tiffany Hawker added one kill.  Laney Walsman & Isabelle Westerfeld were strong at the net, even though they did not earn a kill. Werner led all servers with 9 points including 3 aces. Kessens added 7 points, including 2 aces. Hawker added 4 points to help seal the win. Courtesy of Bulldogs Coach Angie Ehrman.last_img read more

Juventus midfielder only wants to join Barcelona

first_img Loading… Juventus midfielder Miralem Pjanic has told Paris Saint-Germain the only club he wants to join this summer is Barcelona. That is according to Thursday’s front page of El Mundo Deportivo, which reports that Pjanic told PSG sporting director Leonardo he was not interested in a move to the French capital. French media outlet RMC Sport are convinced that the Bosnian international will be on the move this summer and said that the Parisians and the Blaugrana were the two teams leading the chase. It follows on from a report in The Guardian last week saying that Chelsea also wanted the Turin-based player and were negotiating a player-exchange deal with midfielder Jorginho. There have been suggestions that Barca and Juve are hopeful of a convoluted swap deal which would see Arthur Melo move the other way for Pjanic, but Arthur may have no desire for such a move.Advertisement Promoted Content7 Of The Wealthiest Universities In The World9 Actors Who Stay Famous For That One Movie They Did 10 Years AgoWho Earns More Than Ronaldo?These TV Characters Left The Show And It Just Got Better8 Superfoods For Growing Hair Back And Stimulating Its Growth6 Interesting Ways To Make Money With A DroneEver Thought Of Sleeping Next To Celebs? This Guy Will Show YouThe Best Cars Of All TimeThe Very Last Bitcoin Will Be Mined Around 2140. Read More20 Facts That’ll Change Your Perception Of “The Big Bang Theory”Playing Games For Hours Can Do This To Your Body10 Risky Jobs Some Women Do Read Also: Premier League: Two Chelsea stars pen new deals “We are talking to Barça as we do with many important clubs because it will be a difficult summer,” Juventus head of transfers Fabio Paratici told Sky Sports last month, as cited by Diario Sport. Arthur’s reluctance at leaving the Blaugrana may now mean Juve look elsewhere as a destination for Pjanic. FacebookTwitterWhatsAppEmail分享 Arthur has a contract with the club until the summer of 2024 with a €400m release clause, while transfermarkt gives him a market value of €70m.last_img read more

Eagle Motorsports returns in title sponsorship role for IMCA RaceSaver Sprints

first_imgLINCOLN, Neb. (March 3) – Eagle Motorsports returns for a second season as title sponsor of the IMCA RaceSaver Sprint Car division.The Lincoln, Neb., sprint car chassis manufacturer and high performance parts retailer again furnishes a portion of the $2,600 point fund to be paid to top 10 drivers in national point standings for the winged class. IMCA Eagle Motorsports RaceSaver Sprint Cars ran in Texas, Minnesota, Nebraska and Virginia last year. New sanctions in Iowa and Colorado have already been announced for 2014.Drivers must display two Eagle Motorsports decals on their race car to be eligible for point fund money. Point fund checks will be presented during the national awards banquet in November, or mailed beginning the following week from the IMCA home office. “In addition to the point fund contribution, Eagle also awards a free chassis kit to the national champion and national rookie of the year,” noted IMCA Marketing Director Kevin Yoder. “Last season that ended up being the same driver but with a new crop of talented rookies combined with a full field of experienced veterans, those awards are up for grabs and the competition is wide open this year.” “Eagle has been a great partner and we’re excited to work with them again in 2014,” he concluded.Information about Eagle-built chassis and parts is available by calling 402 438-0392 and at the website.last_img read more

Brilliant Brathwaite takes West Indies to the brink …Jason Holder claims his five-wicket Test haul

first_img(REUTERS)-West Indies reached 114-5 against Pakistan with inspirational opener Kraigg Brathwaite still at the crease after a tense fourth day ended early due to bad light as they chased a victory target of 153 in the third Test in Sharjah yesterday.Brathwaite was defiantly standing on 44 with Shane Dowrich on 36 leaving West Indies needing 39 runs to break a 14-match losing streak stretching back to last May last year.Pakistan began the day on 87-4 before a battling 91 by opener Azhar Ali and 42 for Safraz Ahmed looked to have steadied the ship.However, they lost their last five wickets for 33 to end on 208 with West Indies’ captain Jason Holder claiming his first five-wicket Test haul.Roston Chase claimed the pick of the wickets in laughable circumstances.Having dived high to catch a Mohammad Amir drive over long-on, he realised he would step over the rope and released the ball back into play.Chase recovered so quickly that Amir, who had stood still admiring his shot, was unable to scramble home as Chase’s accurate throw from the boundary ran him out.Their total of 208 left the visitors chasing a tempting 153 to end the tour on a positive note having lost the first two tests.Opener Brathwaite, who carried his bat for an unbeaten 142 in the first innings, again looked assured on a flat, slow pitch while partner Leon Johnson was dropped twice as they reached tea on 23-0.However, Johnson went soon after for 12 and Darren Bravo quickly followed for three, both to Yasir Shah.Dowrich, who also batted impressively alongside Brathwaite in the first innings, settled their nerves, though, with a solid performance that included three boundaries and a six off a short delivery which he smashed over deep midwicket to leave his side within touching distance of a rare victory.Brathwaite, who has been on the field for every minute of the Test over four days, continued to play his shots but they then lost Marlon Samuels (10), Jermaine Blackwood (4) and Chase (2) with nerves beginning to show as they slipped to 67-5.West Indies are seeking their second Test win in two years – their only other success in 19 matches coming against England in Barbados in May 2015.Caption:Jason Holder and Devendra Bishoo lead West Indies off the field on the 4t day in Sharjah. Holder claimed career-best figures of 5 for 30, while Bishoo took 18 wickets in the series.PAKISTAN 1st Innings 281West Indies 1st Innings 337PAKISTAN 2nd Innings (overnight 87 for four)Sami Aslam c Joseph b Holder 17Azhar Ali c Bravo b Bishoo 91Asad Shafiq c Bravo b Holder 0Younis Khan c wkp Dowrich b Holder 0*Misbah-ul-Haq c Bishoo b Chase 4+Sarfraz Ahmed c Bravo b Bishoo 42Mohammad Nawaz c Johnson b Bishoo 19Mohammad Amir run out 8Wahab Riaz c Johnson b Holder 1Yasir Shah lbw b Holder 0Zulfiqar Babar not out 15Extras (b2, lb1, w6, nb2) 11TOTAL (all out, 81.3 overs) 208Fall of wickets: 1-37, 2-41, 3-41, 4-48, 5-134, 6-175, 7-189, 8-192, 9-193, 10-208.Bowling: Gabriel 15-1-36-0 (w1, nb2), Joseph 14-3-41-0 (w1), Holder 17.3-5-30-5, Brathwaite 1-0-5-0, Chase 15-1-47-1, Bishoo 19-2-46-3.WEST INDIES 2nd Innings (target: 153 runs)K Brathwaite not out 44L Johnson lbw b Yasir Shah 12D Bravo c wkp Sarfraz Ahmed b Yasir Shah 3M Samuels c Zulfiqar Babar b Yasir Shah 10J Blackwood b Wahab Riaz 4R Chase c Mohammad Nawaz b Wahab Riaz 2+S Dowrich not out 36Extras (lb2, nb1) 3TOTAL (5 wkts, 36 overs) 114Fall of wickets: 1-29, 2-35, 3-57, 4-63, 5-67.Bowling: Mohammad Amir 8-0-29-0 (nb1), Wahab Riaz 8-0-30-2, Yasir Shah 13-4-30-3, Zulfiqar Babar 3-1-3-0, Mohammed Nawaz 4-0-20-0.last_img read more

Drama, tears, laughter: Reality TV recommendations worth streaming

first_img(Tiffany Kao | Daily Trojan) If you are too stubborn to download TikTok but are in need of mindless entertainment to watch between Zoom classes, tune in to these high-quality reality television picks that are worth every second of your time.  While it is not filled to the brim with drama, the Japanese reality show is calming and refreshing. It features six strangers living in a beautiful mansion surrounded by a forest. The house, complete with state-of-the-art furnishing and modern aesthetics, has various cameras placed throughout the rooms. Viewers are able to watch the housemates as they befriend each other and talk about their backgrounds, dreams and morals.  Eventually, couples get engaged and see each other for the first time in a grand gesture that could give Romeo and Juliet a run for their money. However, the real test is how their relationship continues to develop outside the show. To find out the results of this social experiment, make sure to stream “Love is Blind,” now available on Netflix.  “Glow Up” “The Circle” “The Bachelor” — what a classic. You can forget all about the chaos that was Peter Webber’s season with the latest series from “The Bachelor” franchise. “The Bachelor: Listen to Your Heart” combines music and love as 20 single men and women explore romantic relationships with one another. They sing songs as individuals and couples, attempting to find love through their collective passion for music.  Apart from being a reality television show, “The Circle” runs an interesting social experiment to see who exactly someone has to be in order to rate highly and become a crowd favorite. It’s the concept of the “Black Mirror” episode “Nosedive” brought to life, as contestants either climb the social ladder or are eliminated by the group. Head to Netflix, where you can watch “The Circle” and see what it takes to become an influencer. This all sounds incredibly silly, but the show manages to grab your attention with over-the-top outfits that resemble a mix between extravagant Halloween costumes and Met Gala attire. The show keeps the viewer guessing who could possibly be under the mask. Some singers to be unmasked are easier to guess than others, but you can never quite tell if the person will be a famous athlete, actress or politician. “The Masked Singer” is so bad that it’s good, and it’s available for streaming now on FOX and Hulu.  A mix between “Big Brother” and “Catfish,” “The Circle” has contestants scheming to see how far they would go to win $100,000. In lieu of real human interaction, the eight contestants interact through a platform called The Circle. Here, the players make friends and enemies as they strategize a way to gain enough popularity to remain in the game, crafting social media personas — real or fake.  For the makeup enthusiasts out there, “Glow Up” is a competition show where aspiring makeup artists compete for a contract with a leading makeup artist. The 10 contestants are pushed to craft looks in a variety of challenges, ranging from high-fashion editorials to using prosthetics in their art.  “Love is Blind”center_img Unlike other high-energy reality TV shows infamous for their abundance of emotion, “Terrace House” delivers entertainment in a slow, leisurely way. The audience follows the strangers as they go to restaurants or their day jobs, offering a glimpse into contemporary life in Japan. There is also a group of studio commentators that watch along with the viewer; these commentators analyze conversations, body language and other interactions between the housemates. “Terrace House” is peaceful and relaxing, and will boost serotonin levels in the middle of a global pandemic. It is available to stream on Netflix.  Hosted by Nick and Vanessa Lachey, “Love is Blind” is a test to see whether single men and women are able to form emotional connections without ever seeing each other. Each person is placed in a “pod” across from someone else, where they get to know one other through “blind” dates. “Terrace House”  The trailer already promises plenty of arguments, guitars and enough tears to keep you hooked for a while. As one of the contestants puts it: “It’s no fun singing a love song when you’re not in love.” Now that is something worth watching. “The Bachelor: Listen to Your Heart” is set to premiere April 13 on ABC.  A bride running down the street on her wedding day, couples getting engaged without ever seeing each other, emotions running wild and more are all featured in Netflix’s new dating show “Love Is Blind.” “The Masked Singer” follows a simple premise: It’s a singing competition with celebrities disguised in costumes. Each week, the contestant with the fewest audience votes gets unmasked.  “The Masked Singer” “The Bachelor: Listen to Your Heart” “Glow Up” delivers fabulous facial art as the contestants put their vision and talent into each challenge. This show is perfect for any fans of “Project Runway” and “Skin Wars.” The diverse cast of contestants promises to entertain you and possibly even inspire you to recreate a look you’ve seen on Instagram. “Glow Up” is available to stream on Netflix. last_img read more

German freshman Geyer earns starting spot for Syracuse field hockey

first_img Published on September 28, 2010 at 12:00 pm Anna Crumb had big expectations for her roommate-to-be. Literally. After getting her room assignment for the 2010-11 academic year at Syracuse University, the freshman back went online to do some research. She searched for pictures of Leonie Geyer. What Crumb saw was a big, powerful field hockey player, menacing her opposition. But when the two freshmen finally met in their Shaw Hall dorm room in August, Crumb was taken aback by what she saw. The image of the huge player from Neuss, Germany, dissipated, and a shy, soft-spoken freshman replaced it. ‘I assumed that she was going to be bigger,’ Crumb said. ‘But she is this tiny, little, petite girl. When she plays, she plays so big. She kind of owns the field when she plays.’ Owning the field — and the stat sheet — is all Geyer has done since arriving on Syracuse’s campus. The first-year midfielder has started in eight of nine games the Orange has played this season and is tied for first on the team in points with 12.AdvertisementThis is placeholder text Though her stats and grasp of the system may tell people otherwise, head coach Ange Bradley said Geyer is still transitioning between life in Germany and life in the U.S. Geyer is 3,728 miles away from her hometown and still adapting to her new situation. ‘She is just so quiet, and then when she does say something, you’re like, ‘Oh, OK,” Bradley said. ‘She is just feeling it all out right now, still in that ‘trying to figure it out’ stage.’ Geyer’s journey to the U.S. began when assistant coach Lynn Farquhar saw some video clips at Sport-Scholarships online. Based on what she saw in the clips, Farquhar said Geyer was worth visiting in the winter. For Geyer, it was just the idea of coming to the states and experiencing a different lifestyle that was intriguing. When she realized a school with a good field hockey team and good academics was coming to her, it seemed too good to turn down. ‘Syracuse was just the best pick,’ Geyer said. Geyer never visited the campus or the country before deciding to commit. All the firsthand knowledge she had received about the school and the new country had come via the screen of her computer all the way back in Germany. But she did have contact with some of her teammates before leaving for school. This summer, two of the Orange’s other foreign players, sophomore backs Amy Kee and Iona Holloway, played in a summer league overseas and met with Geyer in Achim, Germany. Both Kee, a native of England, and Holloway, a native of Scotland, had already gone through what Geyer is currently going through. Adjusting to living in a different culture while balancing the pressures of being on a nationally ranked field hockey team and the expectations to do well in classes were things the two sophomores knew all about. Geyer said those two players, along with junior midfielder Martina Loncarica, a native of Argentina, have served as crutches for her to lean on when adjusting to life in America is at its toughest. ‘They understand my situation,’ Geyer said. ‘Everything is different. They know this — they have done this before in their first years when they came here, and everything was different for them. ‘They know how I feel and can help me with it and try to explain to me what it means to play here. Trying to explain what is different and what I can do to get better.’ But despite all of the changes and adjustments, Geyer has blossomed on the field. Both Crumb and Geyer said they have been surprised at the numbers that appear next to Geyer’s name on the stat sheet. After just nine games, Geyer is already being mentioned with the likes of two-time All-American Lindsey Conrad. But Bradley said she isn’t surprised at all by what her prospect has accomplished. In fact, it’s what she expected. ‘I thought she could,’ Bradley said. ‘She played on the under-21 team in Germany. You’re a pretty good player if you can be one of the top 30 players in Germany, especially since they’re No. 3 in the world. ‘If you can come into the system and adapt to the cultural differences, I think you’d be fine and be in a position to start to dominate.’ Commentscenter_img Facebook Twitter Google+last_img read more

Ross says team has confidence heading into tough weekend slate

first_img Published on February 20, 2014 at 1:30 am Contact Connor: | @connorgrossman Last year, when Syracuse departed to Palm Springs, Calif., for the Mary Nutter Collegiate Classic tournament, a close battle with then-No. 17 Stanford came down to one pitch. A home run by Cardinal shortstop Jenna Rich with one out in the fifth inning broke a 1-1 tie, and the Orange lost 2-1. This time around, SU (2-3) carries a lot of confidence into the same tournament, looking to knock off defending champion No. 18 Oklahoma (6-4) on Saturday and get revenge against No. 13 Stanford (12-0) on Sunday.The Orange will also play University of California, Davis (4-9) and California Polytechnic (4-6) on Friday and Long Beach State (6-4) on Sunday. “I know it’s going to be very good competition for us,” head coach Leigh Ross said, “but I still believe in all my years of coaching and experience that we are a Top-25 program.” AdvertisementThis is placeholder textRoss underscored the significance of the national polls, citing that the frequent fluctuation of the rankings every week makes them more insignificant than one may think.Despite going against hefty competition in Stanford and Oklahoma, she wants her players to go into these games fearless. Players’ voices rang with confidence and it was clear that fearlessness is the mentality the team is taking into the tournament.“Just because they have a number in front of their school name doesn’t really mean anything,” sophomore outfielder Riley Johnson said. “We just have to play true to ourselves.”Both Johnson and junior utility player Mary Dombrowski said they believe the team could play more freely and loosely, feeling that more of the pressure is on a team like Stanford who doesn’t have a blemish on its record this year.Ross and her players maintained that an intimidation factor isn’t very prevalent for them, even knowing that the three losses SU has on the books this year came against teams inferior to Stanford or Oklahoma. “We’re always preparing to face the best,” Dombrowski said, “And Oklahoma is the best.“But mentally, we’re very prepared for these games.”In terms of preparing, there’s no substitute for playing in actual games to get ready to face two of the best teams in the country. Syracuse was scheduled to depart for Conway, S.C., for the Kickin’ Chicken Classic last week, but the entire tournament was cancelled due to inclement weather.For an SU team that’s no stranger to the term “inclement weather,” the news was extremely disappointing and put Ross in a tough spot on how to prepare for the coming tournament. The team took advantage of the impromptu week off by taking extra batting practice and playing multiple inter-squad games. In addition, Ross put out a notice to local college teams in the area looking for a partner to take on in an exhibition and Onondaga Community College took the offer. “We needed to see some different pitching instead of constantly just facing our own,” senior outfielder Alexis Partyka said, “It allowed us to focus on what we needed to focus on with our hitting and we benefited from it.”The atmosphere for the game was relaxed and loose, and the teams decided to keep the game off the record books and didn’t keep score.The Orange looks to carry this relaxed and loose style of play into its opener against UC Davis. While the team is optimistic despite finishing a game under .500 in its first tournament, Ross knows what her team needs to improve.“I think we need a bit more confidence about us,” Ross said, “A little more killer instinct could help us out.” Comments Facebook Twitter Google+last_img read more

’SC hosts daylong conference to support veterans

first_imgUSC Sol Price School of Public Policy hosted a conference Tuesday on the critical issues facing veterans returning from war, including re-entering the workforce and the high rates of homelessness.Veteran support · Dean of USC Price School of Public Policy Jack Knott speaks about the importance of improving the quality of life of veterans returning from war. USC hosted a conference for public service leaders on Tuesday at Bovard Auditorium. – Ralf Cheung | Daily Trojan Former Director of the Central Intelligence Agency and USC professor Gen. David Petraeus spoke at the beginning of the conference.Petraeus spoke about the veterans coming home from serving in Iraq and Afghanistan and reminded the audience of the tremendous service veterans provide to the nation.“The post-9/11 veterans have come to be deservedly recognized as the new greatest generation,” he said. “America has never had a group of men and women who have spent as long in combat, with over two million of them having served in Iraq and Afghanistan.”Petraeus also introduced the topic of supporting veterans returning from combat.“While our country continues to provide support for our veterans and their families, we can and we should do more, and I know that those here share that conviction,” Petraeus said.The conference featured keynote speakers that included Jacob Wood, former U.S. Marine and president and co-founder of Team Rubicon, a humanitarian disaster relief group.Wood’s organization gathers groups of veterans who then go provide disaster relief all over the world. Humanitarian projects Team Rubicon has been involved with include relief for the victims of Hurricane Sandy and the 2010 earthquake in Haiti.Wood said his inspiration for creating disaster relief efforts came from his experiences serving as a medical aid to people injured in natural disasters.“When I was working on a bullet wound on a young boy, I realized that these hands that I had that were trained for war could just as easily be trained for peace,” Wood said.Wood also spoke about veterans’ issues and how his organization combines veterans’ needs to provide for and defend their country with the need for volunteers in disaster relief.“One problem was that we had inadequate disaster response and the other was the need [for] veterans to feel something better,” Wood said. “We sat there and realized that these aren’t actually two problems but rather two mutually supporting solutions.”Los Angeles Mayor Eric Garcetti gave a keynote speech that emphasized assisting veterans to transition back into civilian life. Garcetti addressed the issues that veterans living in Los Angeles face.“We need to ensure that veterans today can return home to bright futures,” he said. “Making sure that there’s basic opportunities for all Angelenos, especially those who have put their lives on the line for our nation, is essential.”Garcetti specifically pointed to the Veterans’ Affairs offices and the lack of assistance that veterans seem to be getting from the organization.“Veterans in Los Angeles face on average 377 days to receive responses to their Veterans’ Affairs claims. That’s unacceptable,” Garcetti said.The mayor also addressed the issue of veterans re-entering the civilian workforce.“Let’s also make sure that our veterans’ skills are being put to work for use in the workplace by connecting them with training and placement,” he said. “We’ve seen amazing organizations who train veterans for careers in growing industries.”Garcetti also offered suggestions for how USC students could help the efforts providing veterans with the resources they need when returning from service.“Setting up a student-to-student help hotline or looking for those veterans and reaching out to them would be so beneficial,” Garcetti told the Daily Trojan. “Veterans are often invisible because they look like the rest of campus, and I think students can help students better than anyone else can.”The conference concluded with a screening of HBO’s Alive Day Memories: Home from Iraq. The documentary featured interviews with Iraq War veterans who suffered emotional trauma.The veterans featured in the documentary recounted their “alive days”: the days they each narrowly escaped death.One such veteran, Sgt. Bryan Anderson, described the surreal experience of losing both of his legs and his left arm in a bombing during his time in Iraq. Anderson noted that the most important thing was his independence, which was taken from him the day he was injured.First Lt. Dawn Halfaker, who underwent an amputation of her right arm, spoke about the importance of the documentary after the screening.“It told the story of our lives, and I’m grateful that it felt like a safe place to talk about what had happened to me,” Halfaker said.Students responded to the documentary screening with varied insights on how to assist in veterans’ causes. Adam Syed, a junior majoring in psychology, addressed the issue of veterans’ affairs as being different than other relief efforts.“I think veterans’ issues are a lot less hands-on than other humanitarian efforts like raising money for charity,” Syed said. “It’s not really something that one student can do alone. A lot of people have to really band together to see real results.”Jessyka Linton, a senior majoring in political science, said she views awareness as the most important aspect of being a part of the efforts in alleviating veterans’ issues.“Events like these are so interesting because they’re really the first step into the relief efforts,” Linton said. “You really can’t help if you’re not aware of the issues at hand, so I’d say the first thing to do is be informed about these important topics.”last_img read more

4 years since being medically disqualified, AJ Long reflects on self-doubt from football

first_imgWhen AJ Long decided to coach football, he told himself one thing: never lie to your players.Long didn’t want to be like the coaches who had led him astray. The coaches who’d recruited him to play as a mobile quarterback, only to change to a west coast system. The coaches who told him he wasn’t good enough to play the position he’d been recruited for at Syracuse.Returning to the game as a signal caller was always his long-term plan, just not this early. Coaching at Whitehall High School (Pennsylvania) and Diamond Athletics is his way of keeping his passion alive, showing kids that the most important part of the game is having fun – something he lost throughout much of his time at Syracuse and Wagner.“If they do a great job, I’m gonna tell them they did a great job. If they did a bad job, I’m gonna tell them they did a bad job,” Long said. “I’m focused on being honest with these kids for the sake of these kids’ health, because this stuff impacts what you think, feel and do off the field.”Five years ago, Long became the first true-freshman quarterback to win his first career start at Syracuse. He threw for 171 yards and ran for a score in an October 2014 win over Wake Forest and started five games for the Orange that season after Terrel Hunt’s injury.AdvertisementThis is placeholder textA year later, on Oct. 13, 2015, Long was barred from playing at SU. After suffering his third concussion in less than two years, Dr. James Tucker, a former Syracuse team physician, “disqualified him from further participation in football and any other contact sport at Syracuse,” per a 2015 press release from SU Athletics.Daily Orange File PhotoWhen Long stepped out of Manley Field House on that cold October 2015 day after he was disqualified, his mind wouldn’t stop racing. He paced back to his apartment, 843 Small Road Apt. 3, climbed up the stairs and crawled into bed.As Long lay there and blankly stared at his wall, cemented with posters of some of his idols — Michael Vick, Donovan McNabb, Robert Griffin III, Kellen Moore and Drew Brees — tears slowly dripped down his cheek.“This isn’t how it ends,” Long thought. “This can’t be the end.”• • •Visits to a neurologist at Penn Medicine in late 2015 gave him hope. Eventually, after being cleared, Long decided he wanted to continue his athletic career at another school.“When he actually sat down and thought about it, he didn’t feel done,” Long’s father Ace said. “We didn’t feel like football was over for him. We didn’t feel as though he was unsafe.”Long knew he wanted to keep playing, but he couldn’t continue at his dream school, so he looked elsewhere. He transferred to Wagner, but after a change in coaches and a back injury caused by over-lifting, he moved again to Division II West Chester. After leaving Syracuse, Long experienced anxiety, depression and self-doubt, which first started in high school and ballooned after his disqualification.Long never felt like Wagner was a perfect fit when visiting, but it was a clean slate. Wagner was one of the few FBS schools to express interest and offered Long a quick path back to the field.Custavious Patterson, Wagner’s offensive coordinator at the time, was Long’s guidance. Long sensed that Patterson cared about him, and he appreciated Long’s authenticity. Still, Patterson was unsure about Long’s health. Patterson asked Ace to drive to Staten Island to dispel his concerns.“His father told me about how he was healthy and how the concussions were a thing of the past,” Patterson said. “As bad as I wanted the kid to play for us, I wanted to make sure that I wasn’t being selfish and that I wasn’t going to have a future vegetable on my hands.”The quarterback and coach spoke together up to three times a day. Almost immediately, Long revealed his troubles to Patterson — that Tim Lester, former SU offensive coordinator and current Western Michigan head coach, labeled him as “not good enough to play quarterback.” Western Michigan made Lester unavailable to comment for this story.Patterson didn’t see him as weak or fragile, he said. Even if he had never experienced these fears, Patterson tried to place himself into Long’s mind.  At Wagner, Lester wouldn’t be there to doubt him again.“Why does this happen to me?” Long would often ask.“That type of stuff doesn’t happen everywhere,” Patterson said. “Here’s how you can cope with this.”It started with a deep breath. Every time he started to feel anxious or question his worth, Patterson told Long to sit up straight, inhale and exhale.Patterson then assigned readings. The two covered Urban Meyer’s “Above the Line: Lessons in Leadership and Life from a Championship Program” and Tom Coughlin’s “Earn the Right to Win.”As spring approached, Long was making progress. He had become good friends with Sterling Lowry, now a former Wagner safety and Syracuse native, and settled into the “Wagner brotherhood,” Lowry said.But one day, Long and Patterson were sitting in his office discussing blitz packages when Wagner head coach Jason Houghtaling walked in.“Hey, we’re going to demote you because we want to change up what we want to do,’” Patterson remembered Houghtaling telling him.“I was alright with it because I had seen it coming in the cards,” Patterson said.Karleigh Merritt-Henry | Digital Design EditorBut Long didn’t react the same way. Wagner’s new West Coast philosophy was not supportive of his skillset. As a mobile quarterback who uses his legs and arm to hurt a defense, Patterson’s offense fit him better.In the coming weeks, Long received little to no attention from new Wagner offensive coordinator and current Denver Broncos offensive coordinator Rich Scarangello. Scarangello didn’t see Long as the prototypical pocket passer to fit his system, Patterson and Long said.Long had been excluded at Syracuse by Lester, and now, the same was unfolding at Wagner. Those same thoughts of “Why me?” and “Hasn’t enough bad stuff already happened to me?” returned to haunt him.“And when I caught myself really doing that, I didn’t like the person that I was because that’s never the person I’ve been,” Long said.• • •Long looked for a distraction, something to take him away from his playing career. That previous Christmas, Angela Reiss, Long’s mother, gave him his first camera.In August practices, Long snapped pictures of anything he found interesting, usually odd-shaped buildings in Manhattan and pictures of his friends. When the season began, Long still had yet to receive clearance to play following a back injury. So during games, he started snapping pictures of his teammates, the dance team and cheerleaders.It provided an outlet for him — a way to enjoy life outside of sport, a way to forget about the past. He started to believe that he had a greater purpose off the field.“It made me realize that there are other things in life I was good at,” Long said. “It wasn’t just football.”Those past experiences that manifested his anxiety don’t cross his mind as much anymore. After two seasons at West Chester — he threw for 23 touchdowns and won a Pennsylvania State Athletic Conference (PSAC) title in his senior year — Long is content with how his playing career concluded.Courtesy of AJ LongEven after the disqualification, Long considered staying at Syracuse and taking a position as a graduate assistant. While sitting on the bench at Wagner, he crafted his plan to coach kids his way. Now, Long’s where he thought he’d be after his career ended. He just got there quicker than he had hoped.Long’s tumultuous path has made him more aware of his weaknesses. He’d known of his anxiety since before college, but his experiences have showed him how to cope with it.For the moment, he finally has it figured out.“It’s been this constant battle but the one thing I will say is I’ve realized that whatever happens, happens,” Long said. “I won’t make kids feel what I felt: inferior, afraid or unable to speak their mind.” Comments Facebook Twitter Google+ Published on August 27, 2019 at 11:07 pm Contact Adam: | @_adamhillmanlast_img read more